In part 2 of the Relationships Mini-Series, Beki and Olivia delve into two incredibly hard yet important topics - vulnerability and trust.
You’ll hear the co-hosts discuss what vulnerability and trust really means, and how we can’t have one without the other. From saying “I love you” first, to asking for help, to saying what we’re proud of, Beki and Olivia discuss the uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure involved. This episode also includes why it can be so hard to rebuild trust when it’s been broken by someone and why being vulnerable is not a weakness, it’s an act of bravery.
We'd like to dedicate this episode, and the upcoming Relationships mini-series, to our wonderful colleague, Scott.
Relationships can have a huge impact on our lives and can be incredibly important to our well-being. The topic of relationships is huge. So, Beki and Olivia are breaking it down into multiple episodes, with the focus of part 1 being all about communication.
In episode 32, the hosts talk about their own platonic and non-platonic relationships, all while discussing how communication has been important in crafting a positive relationship. You'll hear discussions of how to talk about our needs, power dynamics, dialogue vs debate, and our expectations.
Over the past year and a half, languishing is something that is being spoken more and more about. Why? Because many of us are experiencing that “blah” feeling.
In episode 31, Beki and Olivia discuss how they’ve been experiencing languishing recently. You’ll hear the hosts discuss in depth what languishing is, what it may feel like, why so many of us are experiencing it, and how it differs from depression and anxiety.
The episode also covers some things we can do to support ourselves with languishing from grounding ourselves, giving ourselves permission to enjoy things, changing our environment, and more.
What Really Works? has been going for just over a year, so Beki and Olivia thought this would be a great time for you to get to know your podcast hosts better!
In episode 29 hosts, Beki and Olivia, answer questions submitted by listeners - some questions related to mental health, or questions not so much! Check out the episode for some lighthearted conversation, laughs, and knowledge building.
Many of us have experienced peer pressure and the uncomfortable feelings that come alongside it. But why do so many of us experience it and how can it impact us?
In episode 28 of What Really Works? hosts, Beki and Olivia, discuss Peer Pressure and how it impacts them both. They chat about forms of direct and indirect peer pressure. As well as the consequences of peer pressure and judgement on ourselves, as well as those around us.
You’ll hear about how boundaries, asking questions and understanding our values and self-worth can support us when we experience pressure from friends, family, and society.
In Episode 27 of What Really Works? hosts Beki and Olivia are joined by guest Dela, to discuss the topic of Mental Health for all. Dela chats with the group about advocating for a mentally healthy community and that this cannot happen until we reckon with system inequalities in our communities and healthcare system.
You’ll hear discussions about barriers people from marginalised communities face in healthcare settings, creating safe and informed spaces to discuss personal experiences, the importance of recognising tensions, and what we can ask to understand if workplaces & individuals are proactive in making change.
Dela also shares about creating sustainable change, creating connections, being able to stop, wait & listen, as well as using rest as a form of resistance. All with the aim to create healthy and well communities.
Dela is a writer, community organizer, and mental health advocate. As a recent BA graduate from UBC’s Okanagan Campus, Dela likes to use an interdisciplinary and intersectional approach to all of her work. With extensive diversity education experience and lived mental health struggles, Dela wants to encourage everyone to show up for themselves and continually strive to uncover their potential.
At the start of this episode, hosts Beki and Olivia, take a moment to pause, reflect and discuss the need for tangible acts of reconciliation, even more so after the discovery of the 215 Indigenous children buried at the Kamloops residential school.
Following taking some silence, the hosts discuss guilt and shame, how these emotions can be tough to experience and move forward from. You’ll hear Beki and Olivia discuss where guilt and shame arise from, what can perpetuate these uncomfortable emotions and why we need to be able to move through them to make positive change as well as to be able to hold ourselves accountable.
The hosts also chat about different ways we can support ourselves with guilt and shame, from self-compassion, to clarifying our values, to understanding our judgemental - all of which will hopefully aid us to get comfortable with trying to do the best that we can and grow from mistakes.
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Many of us have experienced a song that gets us pumped, or maybe felt sad from a piece of music, or even really connected with a song - in fact, music can have a huge impact on our physical, emotional, and mental health!
In this episode, hosts Beki and Olivia, focus on music and how it can be a great tool to support our wellbeing! You’ll hear how music can increase our levels of dopamine, support us to recognise and process our emotions, and create connections with others.
The hosts share how they find music impacts themselves, how they’ve used it as a supportive tool as well as how music can be much more than just melody and rhythm - but also has created safe spaces and be a form of reclamation of power.
In Episode 24, hosts Beki and Olivia are joined by guest, Salena, to talk about her experiences as a second-generation Asian Person living in Canada. Salena chats openly and honestly about living with the duality of western culture and her traditional culture, her experience of mental health and stigma, what it took for her to reach out for support, and the pressure she experienced as a young person. Salena also discusses the impact of microaggressions, racism, and anti-Asian hate crime on herself, her family, and the Asian community.
In this episode, you’ll also hear what Salena has found to be supportive for herself, from counselling, having allies, to mindfulness techniques to naps!
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Want to know more about Salena? Salena (she/her) is currently pursuing a Teaching Degree at the Okanagan School of Education in Kelowna, BC. Having previously obtained her BA in Political Science and Sociology, she has a passion for Canadian Politics and Social Justice. She hopes to inspire her students to think critically and to empathize with others. When Salena isn’t studying or working, she can be found swimming, exploring new places to eat, and playing board games with her friends.